Dating

Let’s face it - when it comes to dating, we could all use a bit of help! We asked dating guru/journalist and Flossie Lifecastee, Sam Brett to share her top six tips for successful dating.

From how to find someone worth your time, to dazzling them and of course, making them yours, Sam spills all her best advice with us here…

1: Go where the fish are
First rule of finding a man - go where all the men are. There is no use hanging out in a book store in the self-help aisle, or trying to find a man in your weekly yoga class. He’s going to be at a sporting match, a sporting bar, (or any bar for that matter), the gym (I’ve met plenty of blokes there), the beach … keep your eyes peeled!

The key is to strategically place yourself in a space where you see a cluster of men. You can’t catch a man if you are nowhere near any bait!

2: The Opening Line
Notice something he is doing/wearing/eating/drinking. Turn to him, flash him a big smile and say, “Excuse me, where did you get that sweater/brand of cologne/shoes?” You can follow up by saying that you are looking for a present for your brother/gay best friend and are hoping for some advice. Listen very carefully to his answers and look for clues as to what his hobbies, interests and passions are. Then ask him questions about them!

3: The opening gaze
If you have nothing to say to the man because he’s clearly not doing or wearing anything that would warrant conversation, flash him your biggest smile. According to my unofficial research, the best come-on line a man can receive is your big, open wide grin. Then if he smiles back, you can follow it up with a simple, “Hi, I’m (your name here) - nice to meet you.” Simple is always best!

4: The closer
Suggest to him that you two can talk more about the subject matter you are discussing over coffee. Tell him you’d like to continue on with the conversation but you need a jolt of caffeine el pronto. If he is busy or has to rush back to work, let him have your phone number.

5: Ideal date locations
Somewhere that is off the beaten track is always fun. I love to go the Art Gallery, do a walk around the Botanical Gardens, or pick a cafe that is a little quirky and has interesting characters around. If there is nothing left to talk about at least you can discuss the people around you!

6: Conversation
Never talk about yourself too much on the first date. Instead ask questions and listen to his responses. Be interested and interesting at the same time. Don’t be boring, but don’t be a know-it-all either! Lots of smiling and good body language will ensure you’re asked out for a second. Oh, and always offer to pay your share …